We all have a bleak hole inside of us that drains our happiness, energy, and peace. No matter how hard we try and what resources we use, we never manage to fill it.
It keeps emerging like an inexplicable emptiness, causing us insomnia and hopelessness even when everything seems right.
Even though it feels that it’s always been there, we can’t remember what caused that hole and when it moved into our lives.
Perhaps it was a part of our souls since the beginning, and that’s why we can’t shake it off. It merged with our bodies and blended into our beings.
These wounds likely started in our early childhood, or they followed us from another life.
Whatever the case, we will examine, scrutinize, and delve into it, trying to understand its nature and intentions. But, we will probably fail and accept it as a part of us.
Some will try to ignore it, run away from the pain, and seek escapism in different activities, distractions, and substances. Yet, nothing seems to help; no remedy seems to alleviate the pain.
Others will actively try to uncover what it is and why it reappears. Whatever the case, most people accept it as inevitable darkness that lives inside all of us.
Nevertheless, nothing seems to explain the nature of these wounds like Chiron. Chiron is a comet and a placement in our natal chart that reveals our deepest wounds. It uncovers which areas of our lives feel more challenging than others.
Chiron resides in a specific astrological house and Zodiac sign in the year we are born.
But like the other three comets, Ceres, Juno, and Pallas Athena, astrologers usually don’t perceive Chiron as that significant. That is why most people aren’t familiar with this placement.
It is a lesser-known section in our natal charts, but Chiron is a powerful element. It can unveil the secrets and characteristics of our personalities.
Chiron shows our karmic and profound wounds we’ll carry throughout life, but it helps us alleviate and understand the ache. Sometimes, one can even heal their pain by applying the lessons Chiron gives.
Chiron: History and origins
The American astronomer Charles Kowal discovered Chiron in 1977 after seeing a new planet in the sky. Chiron resides in an eccentric orbit between Saturn and Uranus. It is why astrologers call it the Rainbow Bridge.
The symbol for Chiron resembles a key, and it consists of a letter O and K. That points to its original name, which was Object Kowal. Chiron has a slow orbiting pace, so it takes him around 50 years to go through all Zodiac signs. It stays in each between four and nine years.
It is significant to pay attention to the Houses and Aspects for personal meaning because all people born in those four to nine years have the same Chiron. Chiron got its name from Greek mythology like the other astrological elements.
Chiron was an immortal centaur that astrologers call the Wounded Healer. His father was the god of time, Cronus, but both parents abandoned Chiron. Chiron isn’t a typical uncivilized centaur. Instead, he is a teacher, cultured, wise, and kind. But his abandonment wound followed him all his life.
Chiron never let his disturbing past turn him bitter or make him vengeful. It is why he was a physician, scholar, and mentor of ancient Greek heroes.
Still, troubles continued. Even though Chiron didn’t participate, a poisoned arrow struck him during a misunderstanding between centaurs and Hercules. As he was immortal, he couldn’t die, condemning him to live in agony.
Finally, the gods offered Chiron to switch his fate with that of Prometheus, which he accepted. Even though he earned mortality, his destiny was sad and unjust.
Chiron’s wounds teach us how to overcome our own and becoming the healers
The myth of Chiron reminds us of agony, tragedy, and struggle that’s out of our hands. The placement in a natal chart indicates insecurities, pain, and helplessness.
Chiron reveals a trauma we want to conceal and memories we repress. Those wounds always find their way back, triggering our vulnerability and affecting our confidence.
Although that pain reemerges, Chiron wants to help us mend them and remind us we are survivors.
Chiron shows we can suppress painful memories and avoid the hurt. But they will stop controlling us only if we confront them.
Chiron reveals how to heal ourselves and others. We have to wrestle with our wounds, but that pain helps us connect with those experiencing the same agony.
That way, we learn how to overcome our struggle, become healers, and be empathetic.
Chiron in Cancer (House IV): Meaning and general traits
Chiron in the fourth house is associated with family and relationships as Cancer is the hypersensitive and family-oriented sign. As Chiron is the element that represents healing and surpressed wounds, this placement speaks about pain that manifests in feelings of abandonment.
People with Chiron in Cancer care about their families more than anything. They are the source of happiness but also fears and personal issues.
Chiron in Cancer centers around emotions and love, which means that these individuals don’t feel loved and protected. Their wounds come from family issues and childhood traumas.
Feeling unloved is the principal pain people with Chiron in Cancer struggle with throughout the life. Someone likely abandoned them when they were kids or they experienced a loss that they didn’t never managed to process fully.
Perhaps their parents divorced or a family member died, leaving them alone and without protection. It might even be that Cancer Chiron individuals lost a pet as kids, which is why they associate love with pain and loss. They experienced an emotional trauma at an early age, and that’s at the core of their greatest wound.
Despite everything, Cancer Chiron people are hopeless romantic and they believe finding true love will cure their suffering. But they surpressed their pain so deeply that they find themselves unable to access it. Hence, they are unaware of what makes them feel so unlovable.
Due to believing that they don’t deserve love, they like the idea of relationship, but they are too afraid to pursue it. That creates the endless feelings of loneliness and emptiness they don’t know how to cure. Even when they try to confront their fear of love, they might be unable to find it.
Persons with Chiron in Cancer often didn’t have the nurture one child deserves, which caused low self-confidence and self-esteem. They likely didn’t receive the needed care and attention when it was crucial for healthy growth and development. That is the source of their feeling of unworthiness.
As grown-ups, they don’t believe they deserve love and support, so they might avoid what can be the medicine for them. But even if they find a romantic partner or profound friendship, they usually still feel something is missing.
That is because they didn’t address their primal wound and uncovered what caused it in the first place.
Cancer Chiron individuals tend to sabotage any possibility of a relationships because they fear it will end in failure. On the other side, it’s also not unlikely for them to suffocate others with affection and being too emotionally demanding.
Deep inside, these persons are hurt and in need of saving, but they often decide to save others instead.
They often help underprivileged groups, helpless people, and abandoned animals. Rescuing and providing these souls with support and resources allows Cancer Chiron people to give all the love they have.
However, they believe that’s also a safe love to give and receive without being hurt in the process.
Even though people with Chiron in Cancer are usually gentle, sincere, and loving, if the placement is afflicted, they can be possessive and go to extreme lengths to keep someone. It is why it’s not an utter surprise if Cancer Chiron people lie, manipulate, and cheat to make someone stay with them and feel loved.
Nevertheless, some Cancer Chiron individuals will avoid love and pursue unavailable or uncompatible partners. Unconsciously, they seek people who will reinforce the belief that they are not worthy of love.
Sometimes Cancer Chiron people will imagine a relationship with persons who gave clear signals that they don’t like them. They do that to confirm their idea of not deserving love.
The other type of Cancer Chiron people are the ones who need constant validation and attention from their partner. They need other persons to fill the emotional void, so they’ll do whatever they can to achieve that.
That often means Cancer Chiron individuals will go beyond idealizing their loved one. Once the relationship ends, persons with Chiron in Cancer feel their world is shattered and there are no more reasons for life.
As they are highly emotional and sensitive, people with Chiron in Cancer tend to suffer from psychosomatic ilnesses, such as stress, anxiety, and chronic fatigue syndrome.
Woman with Chiron in Cancer
Females with Chiron in Cancer likely had a conflictive relationship with a father or mother that left them with emotional scars and trauma.
On the other side, maybe they never met one of the parents, they were absent, or died at an early age.
However, that left an open wound that Cancer Chiron women never managed to mend.
An afflicted Chiron might even indicate incest or violence, which left the victim with feelings of unworthiness and not deserving love. Because of that, these women also struggle with self-image and severe mood swings.
However, Chiron in Cancer doesn’t always indicate extreme traumas. Sometimes it might be that these females had a profound connection with one of the parents and that they seek similar love in their partners. As they realize it isn’t possible to revive that kind of love, they find themselves trapped in nostalgia and the past.
Cancer Chiron females need to feel belonging and warmth to feel loved and they seek it in every relationship. It is a form of escapism from the tension between them and their primary family.
Yet, parents, siblings, and other relatives aren’t always the reason of pain these females fave. Women with Chiron in Cancer tend to feel that they don’t belong to their family, that they are too different or misunderstood.
If they didn’t find comfort and understanding in their home, Cancer Chiron women likely had issues to perceive their family properly. Perhaps they couldn’t understand the motives, behaviors, or decision of their parents.
In that case, ladies with Chiron in Cancer couldn’t comprehend what does the family expect from them, and how they can contribute to their.
Hence, as grown-ups, these women struggle to understand the pillars of a family and roles of each member. It is why they tend to observe others and analyze their behaviors and how they give and receive love.
Women with Chiron in Cancer who don’t confront their primal wound are in danger of either withdrawing from love or manipulating others to care about them.
The first type tends to avoid compatible people who could be good partners, or they chase those who are unattainable, uninterested, or already in a relationship.
The second type is more destructive and it might turn to lies and pretending to get what they want.
A negative placement gives women who are capable of pretending to be someone who they are not, or to emotionally blackmail others.
Nevertheless, both types of Cancer Chiron females have the same desire: to find someone who fill fill the emptiness and pain their wound is causing.
Man with Chiron in Cancer
Males with Chiron in Cancer are likely to have a complicated relationship with the father. On the other side, their mother was probably the central figure and the source of support and love.
However, Cancer Chiron men found their dad disapproving, cold, or emotionally detached. The lack of that connection caused a wound that they desperately want to heal.
On the flip side, the father was perhaps absent due to the passing at an early age or because he divorced from the mother.
However, the circumstances didn’t allow Cancer Chiron men to develop a deep relationship with their dads. In some cases, the absent or unloving parent was the mother.
Regardless of which scenario is the one affecting Cancer Chiron men, they tend to chase unavailable partners who would fill the childhood needs their parents didn’t. They usually fall in love deeply and fast.
But if they do find a person who genuinely gives them love and nurture, Cancer Chiron men can become too attached and clingy.
Chiron in Cancer placement also indicates that these men either see their fathers as superheroes or villains.
Hence, they tend to idealize and want to be like them, or to feel hate and aversion. In both cases, there is a strong bond and attachment, whether they like it or not.
These men also likely had bossy fathers who wanted their sons to choose a particular career or life path.
As a result, Cancer Chiron men are either avoiding anyhing that their father would approve or they are trying to meet all their expectations.
That can also manifest in the choice of their partner. Men with Chiron in Cancer tend to seek partners who would either infuritate or impress their parent.
Cancer Chiron males have to learn to look for partners who they will like and accept, not use them as means to provoke their family.
Thus, they need to confront their primal wound of feeling unloved or neglected to break the pattern of seeking wrong partners.
Cancer Chiron individuals are empaths, sensitive souls, and affectionate partners. They tend to have unresolved family issues and conflictious relationship with the parents.
These people likely had absent or emotionally detached parent, which created the idea of not deserving love and being unworthy.
They care deeply about others, but depending on their emotional trauma, they tend to use friends and partners as a relief from their pain, or a way to confirm their fear that they will never be loved. It is why they often seek unattainable partners who will never commit or genuinely love them.
As family is at the core of their pain, distrust in people, and lack of faith in love, Cancer Chiron people have one task. They should find the quintessential Mother, the one who provides unconditional love.
However, that love is within themselves and they need to uncover that everything they need is already there.
People with Cancer in Chiron need to learn that how they love themselves will reflect in their relationships.
Hence, these individuals have to accept that regardless of their past, they’re already good enough and they deserve love.