You are not good enough. Don’t even dare to try because you’ll fail. Forget about your dreams because you should have learned by now something always goes wrong. Just quit.
Do these thoughts sound familiar? Are you struggling with feeling trapped, off-track, and invisible? You keep trying to reach your goals, get the recognition you deserve, and silence the demons inside you, but some mysterious forces always push you back.
That makes you feel stuck in your own body and mind, and your life seems to be on a continuous pause. Nothing moves or changes even if everything looks different.
With that loud pain that lives within you, you feel like you are not the master of your destiny, and there’s something beneath controlling your life-strings.
All you desperately want to find out is how to break out of that loop. How do you start feeling happy and pinpoint what’s shattered inside?
You are exhausted from trying to do things differently but always ending up in the same place and with the same results, which feels like a consuming madness.
The same patterns will reappear in your career, everyday life, and relationships in different forms.
It is how you start feeling that time doesn’t pass and that the reality might be a matrix because you are that trapped. Regardless of how hard you try to move on and change your life, you are always in the same place and position.
But these experiences and agony are not pointless, despite being disturbingly painful. They are trying to show you the darkness we all have inside but experience it differently. That part of us is responsible for feelings of aimlessness, insecurities, and vulnerabilities.
That’s what Chiron does: it wants to show us the wounds we didn’t heal and how overcoming them can help us mend others. It is about understanding our demons and finding people going through the same to provide them with healing.
Chiron: History and origins
Scottish astrologer, Maurice Wemyss, had a prediction in 1935 about a celestial body with an affinity for Sagittarius with characteristics that resemble Chiron. She believed that the world would discover this planetoid, which happened 42 years after.
Humankind officially met Chiron in 1977 when the American astronomer Charles Kowal spotted a new planet in the heavens.
Chiron’s original name was Object Kowal because Kowal characterized it as a minor celestial planet. But they renamed it Chiron, in honor of the legendary Centaur. Chiron is also known as the Rainbow Bridge due to his erratic position between Saturn and Uranus.
Since it orbits between these two planets, Chiron transits quite slowly. It spends up to nine years in one zodiac sign, and it takes him about 49 to travel through all twelve.
Thus, Chiron goes through multiple retrogrades. It is why we typically feel its impact in our fifties. That is the time when our wounds open up again, requiring action and healing.
Chiron’s glyph looks like a key, which resembles his role: to unlock the wounds and help us get to a better destination, the one where we will find peace.
But what we know about Chiron doesn’t only come from astronomy. It also has mythological roots. Chiron was an immortal centaur due to his father being the god of time, Cronus.
He wasn’t a typical uneducated and uncivilized centaur. Instead, he was wise, intelligent, and a mentor of mythical Greek heroes.
But Chiron had a tumultuous fate: his parents abandoned him at birth, and he got struck by a poisonous arrow during a misunderstanding between Hercules and centaurs.
Hercules felt guilty and begged the gods to have compassion for Chiron. They decided to offer him to switch his fate with the one of Prometheus, and Chiron accepted. His life and death remind us that some wounds reappear throughout life without us having control over them.
Chiron’s wounds teach us how to overcome our own and becoming the healers
Author of Chiron and the healing journey, Melanie Reinhart, states that we act through a triad of figures. Our roles are changeable, and that’s why Reinhart introduces a concept known as Three Faces of Chiron. We play the victim (or the one who’s wounded), the perpetrator (the one who inflicts pain to other people), and the one who heals ourselves.
We use these identities in the process of recovery, switching roles to overcome the struggle. Certain events, situations, or tragedies related to Chiron’s position in a natal chart are the ones to activate healing.
We switch characters. We can be the one who’s wounded, but also the one who hurts others. The goal is to break from the cycle of being either a victim or a perpetrator.
Chiron in Virgo (House VI): Meaning and general traits
Chiron in Virgo is a complicated placement because these individuals have to heal a wound that’s impossible to mend.
These individuals struggle with the pain of trying to be perfect. It is why, no matter what they do, they believe there is something inherently wrong with them.
People with Chiron in Virgo have self-worth issues. That reflects in perfectionism, criticism, and distorted body image. They are persons who strive to be immaculate, to do things right, and to fix every problem.
It is why it’s not unlikely for them to be people-pleasers, to take everything personally, and to worry about other people’s opinions 24/7.
They torment themselves with feeling incomplete, impure, or damaged. Virgo Chiron individuals were likely suffering from a terminal illness in a previous lifetime, or they saw someone close to them pass away after a long and painful disease.
Perhaps it’s a past-life memory of dying young. Or, maybe Virgo Chiron people witnessed the death of their parents at an early age.
However, it’s an experience that left Virgo Chiron people traumatized and feeling like their life chapters never get the proper ending.
Virgo Chiron individuals believe that there is a part of them that’s utterly broken, but they can’t pinpoint which one. They don’t feel comfortable showing their struggle to anyone, so they hide it and avoid confronting their fears.
Indeed, one of their biggest worries is that people will see them the way they see themselves: imperfect, flawed, and inferior. For Virgo Chiron people, that would be a confirmation of being unclean, not enough, and not “together.”
Due to not avoiding to share their pain and allow others to help them, persons with Chiron in Virgo seek ways to fix themselves. That usually means that they desperately try to find a sense of completeness and contentment.
Yet, Virgo Chiron people don’t know which path to take. That makes them feel more lost and incomplete.
Individuals with Chiron in Virgo manifest their agony through chasing perfection and working on their growth and looks.
That’s usually a productive way to mend a wound, but not in a case when one never thinks it’s enough. Hence, Virgo Chiron people won’t stop. They will never think they are beautiful, smart, or educated enough. It is why these persons are associated with hypochondria, OCD, and obsessive perfectionism.
Virgo Chiron individuals can be manic in maintaining their hair, body, and clothes, neat and tidy. These persons can spend a fortune on the latest trends or watch fashion and beauty video tutorials for hours. They are also meticulous about aligning their style with the occasion.
People with Chiron in Virgo are also likely to learn fun facts, small talk examples, and every world capital to ensure they are ready for every conversation. They also manifest their pain through verbal communication. Virgo Chiron people strive to know all the answers and how to talk with people effectively.
But Chiron in Virgo is not always centered around cleanliness and organization. Instead, these people can also be messy, chaotic, and disorganized. They can also be a mix of these two types.
Thus, they tend to criticize others because it’s their way of preventing people from judging them.
Thus, individuals with Chiron in Virgo are also likely to go from one extreme to another. They struggle with seeing grey shades because it complicates life. Hence, these people prefer to label everything and everyone as either good or bad.
Regardless of how they express their pain, people with Chiron in Virgo seek control over their lives by focusing on one category.
Some will concentrate on their looks and others on relationships.
However, in the end, they all discover that control is not an effective way to eliminate their inner agony.
Woman with Chiron in Virgo
Females with Chiron in Virgo tend to be responsible, scrupulous, and organized. But they never feel their efforts are enough. No matter how much they clean, care about their looks or behavior, Virgo Chiron women believe something is wrong with them. They seek ways to fix those fractures, but Virgo Chiron women can’t uncover what’s damaged.
It is why they often fixate on things and people they believe they can repair. Hence, women with Chiron in Virgo focus on cleaning, organizing, and helping other people. They are usually handy and know many life hacks. It makes them happy to assist others in whatever they need. Yet, that doesn’t give them lasting satisfaction.
Because of that, Virgo Chiron women tend to become perfectionists, obsessive-compulsive and controlling. They want to move all the strings and determine every outcome.
Still, Virgo Chiron females often fail to see how their actions and contribution make a difference. That leaves them dissatisfied with themselves and life.
Other times, women with Chiron in Virgo can be sloppy, disorganized, and inattentive. If their inability to achieve perfection overwhelms them, they can give up and lose themselves in pity and misery.
Sometimes they turn to alcohol or other illicit forms of escapism. That makes them feel lonely and misunderstood. Yet, Virgo Chiron females see it as their way of taking back control over their lives.
Regardless of how they manifest the pain, women with Chiron in Virgo need control and love controlling others. That is why some people will find them too possessive, complicated, or demanding.
Virgo Chiron ladies tend to seek dominant partners who can free them from their need to control everything.
On the other side, they might also use relationships to feel the power, so they seek vulnerable or partners with low self-esteem. In that case, they will be emotionally detached and perceive their partner more as a friend.
As they have problems with body-image and feeling impure, women with Chiron in Virgo are likely to avoid intimate relationships because they might associate it with something dirty and shameful.
Because of that, men usually perceive them as cold and unattainable. That can often attract partners who will want to control Virgo Chiron women or be afraid of them.
Nevertheless, females with Chiron in Virgo should learn how to relax and focus on solving problems instead of criticizing. They should consider the idea that imperfections are a part of every human being.
Man with Chiron in Virgo
Males with Chiron in Virgo tend to be pragmatic, restrained, and emotionally detached. They control through organizing their life, house, shelves, garage, and anything they can tidy-up. Sometimes they get lost in these activities because they often exaggerate concerning cleaning, fixing, and arranging.
Like their female counterparts, control is their principal drive, and they manifest it in every aspect of their lives. Virgo Chiron men tend to control their partner and friends, and they are quite subtle in doing so.
However, they are intelligent, so their loved ones often end up doing what Virgo Chiron tells them. If Chiron is afflicted, these men can manipulate others into doing something they don’t want. And if Virgo Chiron males don’t get others to follow their advice or rules, they will be infuriated or feel a sense of worthlessness.
The problem with men with Chiron in Virgo is that they repeat the same actions and habits without wondering why people don’t listen to them. They should consider that perhaps their ways are not always the best, and that’s why their controlling techniques fail.
Another way how Virgo Chiron men enforce their control is through exercise. They have a complicated relationship with their bodies and notice every imperfection. It is why they often start rigorous diets, work out until they pass out, or spend all day in a gym.
These men also tend to organize and control their emotions and thoughts. Some people might see them as robotic or emotionless because of that. But men with Chiron in Virgo don’t like anything having control over them, including their feelings.
Due to being overly controlling, males with Virgo in Chiron suppress their fears. Yet, they might resurge as phobias.
It is why men with Chiron in Virgo must realize that’s it’s impossible to have complete control even over menial things. That will free them and allow them to confront their struggles.
People with Chiron in Virgo are usually born with inaccurate beliefs of being incomplete, unworthy, or damaged. These opinions appear at such an early age that they can’t remember how it started.
For some reason, even as kids, they believed there is something wrong or broken within them. As they grew up, they manifested these beliefs, convincing people to think the same.
However, these thoughts don’t always appear without any trigger. Sometimes parents had an impact on how Virgo Chiron people see themselves.
Perhaps their caregivers often criticized them or behaved toward Virgo Chiron in a way that made them believe they are damaged or incomplete.
As people with Chiron in Virgo tend to see everything as an insult or provocation, perhaps their parents never belittled or criticized them.
But Virgo Chiron individuals saw their parents’ remarks or comments as criticism, which started accumulating negative self-perceptions.
The truth is, no one can heal any Chiron wound fully. The placement is there to stay, and the pain makes a person who they are. Hence, they have to accept their vulnerability, imperfections, and fears.
People with Chiron in Virgo should embrace the idea they are already complete by being themselves. Yet, it is Chiron that makes them feel broken and incomplete.
These individuals should learn how to integrate their imperfections into their being because those fragments make them who they are. No part of their bodies or psyche is good or bad, but they all have a purpose.
Their life mission is to learn to love everything that makes their being because all those elements together make them whole.